We'd like
to wish everyone a wonderful, magical and "lucky" new year in 2013
and we hope that all of you are prepared for what's to come as there are some
exciting things coming your way.
For those
following our posts for all of 2012, we appreciate your support and although we
will continue with brief updates, the posts were removed. But no worries folks,
the details of what this poor woman has gone through have not been forgotten,
nor has she been lost in the world with the rest of the victim's. During the
holidays there were some horrific things that occurred, but there were also
some many good things. In light of the good (always the focus), she remains
hopeful that someday this will all come to end. Until then, she forges on with
determination to continue with a somewhat normal life (whatever that new normal
be).
For now,
her "stalker, hacker & harasser" remains alive and well and
although he may be having difficulty with entering what is supposed to be her
"safe" home at will as he used to, at least not with her
new house guest and the fact that her home has been secured. In retaliation,
however, he has slammed her on the Internet tenfold. It is a shame as she
has been hit extremely hard in so many areas including what brings her joy and
balance, it is a wonder she is able to maintain inner peace at all.
This guy
has now been allowed to enter her social media and business accounts at will, including the changing
of codes that track things from traffic to payment; he's been allowed to change
profile information to security information – and who knows what else. She
recently had to put a fraud alert on her credit as a safety precaution for
strange activity. She was told multiple issues were happening by authorities,
which we knew all along, and it's no doubt there are multiple back doors.
She is
doing everything possible to ensure her life doesn't get further ruined while he continues to find ways
to make her think of him daily (isn't that the way it works with “this type” of
person?) What is most troublesome is that it is being allowed, continuously,
repeatedly, day in and day out. We
have come to the conclusion that with things like erasing the tracking code he
thinks it will erase the trail that leads to him; but surely he knows that it's
not just her who uses such a code – that the publishing tool and site
would use the same, thus authorities could trace him and his location in a
matter of seconds. So perhaps it's not the tracing of his steps he wants
removed but rather the ridiculous time it takes for her to have to re-enter the
information, and more to the point – her thoughts of what an idiot he is or how
much she dislikes what he is doing (the whole "she has to think of him"
theory). Plausible, we suppose. But again, everything has a theory and truth
behind, and whether it leads to a “conspiracy theory” behind the mind of a
psycho or simplistic theory behind simple human error found behind
“incompetency,” the truth always comes to light and reveals itself. Always. The good news with him
being so diligent in his efforts to screw with her livelihood – by the doing of
this, it brings the events from a minor misdemeanor and innocent hacking arena
to categories lingering in the felony count zones.
This
woman is strong and comes with a great deal of patience; that we have witnessed for ourselves. She
said it has been extremely difficult in many areas, sometimes it felt she had
been hit from all sides, with some people that didn't
understand or who may have questioned something that had happened (making her
feel they were questioning her);
she even said some questioned her belief in some of the events that occurred,
as if maybe it was not related somehow (just questioning her made it feel they
were doubting her). She said it almost became easier to withdraw than to have
to help people understand or to help them want to be more supportive.
We tried to explain to her that
this was normal; that some victims do withdraw with some even feeling more
alone, especially when family and friends don't understand what the victim has
gone through, or what they are currently
going through – most particularly a tragedy that lasts a long time,
such as with abuse. And even further broken down abuse goes much deeper when it
comes to understanding such as with aspect or the length of time involved; some
victims live in abusive relationships for years, many not leaving for fear. And
oddly, sometimes a woman may stay out of loneliness. On the other side of that
abuse coin might be those that want to leave but don’t how to begin; some may
not have a clue how if that’s all they’ve known (such as right out of high
school into an abusive relationship) or who don’t have help, or local support,
financial assistance – or who simply just don’t know what to do to get out of
the relationship. Regardless, it is equally damaging, and to an outsider,
equally or more difficult to understand.
There are of course other types of
abuse that occur in instances such as with this woman, where the abuse comes in
many forms from the abuse of her “safe” space at home, to her computer (social
networks, email that is supposed to be “private” to her phone, car, personal
files, records, etc.) and the occurrence of such lasting for well over 2 years.
Such a violation mimics abusive relationships, and, it can be difficult for
others to understand – and rightfully so (there is no right or wrong with being
the victim or supporter).
What we’d like to express is that
crisis doesn’t just hit a victim, and it affects everyone in their lives – family, friends and even coworkers. And
quite honestly, with what has happened and is happening to this woman, every
single day of her life, imagine the frustration for her and for those
that love and support her. It just can’t be easy on anyone.
Perhaps the one thing we can offer
to others who may have a friend or family member experiencing crisis (of any
kind, really) of whom they don't understand, or that maybe you’ve reached a
point of being unable to take “any more of the story” out of frustration we can only say this: Take a break. We often
tell the victims this as well. Without taking a step back to find a different
view, there’s no way to be able to accept or change perspective or direction.
The other thing we try to tell
supporters is to just try to let the person know you care; trying to fix or
change a problem immediately is not what victims want – they want only to know
they have support and someone who cares for them. Being a victim is often more
like existing in a dark and scary world, and very much alone. As friends and
family who love and want to help these people, to see anyone they care about
suffering hurts so naturally the
first thing anyone tries to do is to change that, or fix it – ultimately
leading to more harm than good. Believe it or not, however, it’s more about the
touching of a person’s heart – that connection by humans that let’s the other
know, in this case the victim, that you care and are there for them – 24/7 no matter what. That heart-kiss is worth
a thousand hugs and words, and sometimes it is like hugging from a distance. It
can come from telling a person you are there via text, email, telephone and in
person – the point being, it’s not about what you want to do to help the victim, but about what the victim needs.
So next time that friend or family
member of yours calls that you know is hurting, give them that kiss from your
heart – let them know you are there for them, whatever they need.
And for supporters who come up with
predetermined judgment, or who come to their own conclusions – be careful about
voicing those. Sometimes the damage done is more severe than you might think.
Sometimes saying to your friend that it doesn’t sound possible, or that you
just can’t believe so-and-so could do such a thing – or worse, questioning
their belief about what is happening (when they live it day in and day out);
you might as well just flat out say to them, “I don’t believe you and I think
you’re the one who is crazy.”
Another crucial stage might be
during recovery, "after the dust settles" or while it is
settling – when people don’t always know what to do or what another needs
in their time of healing. Getting the proper help is crucial, which is exactly
why Angels Gate Network is
gathering a list of resources for those in need. Having that list of resources
available is extremely important because sometimes the victim does feel alone, and sometimes there is
nothing anyone can do during the healing process. Just imagine all the healing
victims have to endure – and all the healing
this woman will have to endure after almost 3 years of being stalked,
hacked and harassed – she's been an open book for abuse for a very long
time. It's not like she's going to wake up one morning and suddenly be cured. I
think we just wanted to convey that support is a wonderful thing, and it
doesn’t mean you have to understand something to be able to support those you
care about. All victims need the unbiased and unconditional love and support of
family and friends; and we just hope that everyone remembers that all
relationships take work, with the remembering of the most important thing: It
is never too late to be there for
someone.
Oh, and there were a few things
about technology that came up in a recent conversation such as a few folks who
thought their computers had been infected or “died” after visiting this woman’s
Facebook page or after receiving a Facebook message from this woman. First and
foremost, people should understand that if they don’t maintain their computers
with anti-virus, keep them up to date and programs updated (and know what they
are doing) – going on any site is a risk. Sites like Facebook especially are
taking a risk, so no, receiving a message from a friend on Facebook or even an
email is not going to give you a virus – it’s going to take a lot more than
that. You can visit a site that has a virus on it, and if your anti-virus
doesn’t catch it, you could kiss your computer goodbye. We again just want to
convey that people – more to the point, your friends and family, can’t be the
blame for viruses. So be kind with your words and be careful not to blame the
wrong person for you being careless or your machine not being carefully
maintained. This woman made one reference to her “address book” being hacked
over 2 years ago and everyone in it since getting hacked at one time or another
– and it seems several of those people now think it was “her” who is to blame.
We hope we have enlightened a few
folks today, if anything to help them become better supporters to their family
and friends. Hacking has become a huge issue across the globe, and it’s not
just about this woman, or the guy down the block or the girl a city over – it is
happening everywhere and in a headline on every newspaper, on every site in
America. So don’t place blame but do help us try to solve the issues. We can
all start by being better supporters of those going through some of these
issues or who are facing crisis.
We will
continue to keep you all updated on things, however, for now we wish you a very
happy, healthy, fruitful and wonderful New Year.
Stay
tuned for more enlightenment, and of course, more "Conspiracy – or Incompetency Theory?" (scheduled
to be released in 2013) a book written by an "Anonymous Angel"
who has been stalked, hacked and harassed by someone (or, rather, a few
individuals) for more than 2-1/2 years now – and she's getting just a
wee bit tired of it being allowed to continue.
As with
anything in life, however, there is always something good that comes from
tragedy (the lesson not always being for the person going through it); thus as
we continue on this journey with her, we will update you and continue to focus
on the good. And, we will most certainly be sharing those good things with all
of you so that everyone can benefit.
In the
meantime, those that may be experiencing trouble with stalkers, hacking or
harassment, or who may need assistance please do give us a shout, we'd be happy
to hear from you. Ciao for now! ^i^
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