He thinks he's killing softly...

So the saga continues. It's like a Spielberg meets Hitchcock meets Spongebob movie, only it never ends (thus the sometimes idiotic, comedic Spongebob addition). She lives this nightmare every single day; and every single day he continues to hack her emails and "try" to destroy her life. Every single aspect of it. And he's allowed. Amazing.

He recently used a phone she no longer had. Yes, imagine that. She was no longer paying for the phone; had "canceled" the phone.. yet it is still working, with her info connected to it. Imagine that. Her gmail account says its data and email were linked to that phone all month, yet she didn't have her email linked to it... she purposely deleted all email (unbenownst to the hacker dude). And even after "calling" the ISP (which says a lot about Sprint & Virgin Mobile) -- her account continues to remain active, even though they claim it is "dead." Amazing.

We publish this only because people need to check, double check and triple check that their accounts are indeed "closed" and not just closed, but canceled and deleted. Just as she did. Ha ha.

She continues to cruise the net just to see.. figuring someone will eventually trace it, right?

He followed her to her new location; she did not bring phones or computers -- but he knew within a week. She knew he knew well before that; either that or her new roomie was nosey as heck. They broke in at least 7 times (according to her count); with items either broken or missing. An antique tea set from the 1920's is the latest broken. That was fun to find. Money, SD cards, photos, evidence... things he thinks will hang them all (all associated?) Who knows. They continue to come in "at will." The smoke alarm went off while she was taking a cold shower (same type of thing that used to occur in her "old" place. Maybe they thought she'd come running out without a towel? *shaking head*

So... not to give him notoriety by any means... but hello... this woman is in need of some assistance here. She applied for a safe address... that she can't seem to obtain. For some reason, it keeps getting delayed... as do the phone calls.. and the return calls.. and the messages... and the forms.. etc. (you get the idea). It's as if no matter what she does, something happens. Seems folks are "afraid" to help her.. people don't want to "get involved.". Any willing participants out there unafraid to assist here?

We are at the point of taking any willing help. We can't tell you anything about her whereabouts, but what we can tell you is a bit of interesting info that we found very interesting... not only was no proof of service received by the other party (yet a response was filed immediately on his behalf as to "how good their relationship was while together" -- totally missing the point as to why the RO was filed in the first place or the fact that they were technically only together a few months before the red flags started to show) ...but as usual, she has yet to receive her mail. We just found that a tad bit interesting. And, criminals get their one free postponement, as he did his. And attorney. And he wanted to postpone until a certain date; judge said sorry, no calendar that day (it was her birthday, ironically; we are sure no coincidence there). And then judge said a few weeks later to which a sudden "no" burst out due to no representation availability followed by a vacation; however, the judge just said how about a week from then? And suddenly sure, availability not an issue -- even though a few minutes prior there wasn't availability due to representation? Wonder if anyone else in the courtroom caught that one as well? There's more but we can't go into it. Just the same old... email getting hacked "daily" along with her FB, bank account, "new" emails, passwords, social accounts, "employer" accounts, business accounts, etc. We couldn't figure out how it was being done, but then found out codes were being used... along with password changes, erasing phone and two-step info and all other info, putting back what they could before she logged back in -- recovering accounts while on her wi-fi (same "blank" wi-fi name as before) -- in other words, same thing different computer. Oh, and the old passwords, so that it makes her look "stupid"? Nice one.

She can't get her printer to work again, not since court last week... so... not sure how he managed that one. It's just one thing after another. Erasing more info, thinking it was the only copy. Everything under the sun has been gone through, copied and returned. Her files are a mess. She got rid of everything -- decided it wasn't worth having anything anyone could get into anymore. The one thing he wants that he didn't get -- he is trying desperately to get one way or another -- breaking in every chance he gets from thinking it's in her purse or safe, drawer, desk or somewhere "evident" when she's not that crazy to keep it that close or easy for him to get.  It's almost comical, but at the same time annoying -- he keeps damaging things while looking. Insurance cannot replace these items handed down to her by her grandparents; or the items that were supposed to go to her children and grandchildren. He is a relentless with no-soul, no-heart and it's as if a non-human being that is not thinking. He must not think of his own children or mother. It is just awful. How dare he damage her belongings like that as if they were disposable and worthless. Almost anything of value has been destroyed, damaged or stolen. It is so sad.

The shower head she talked about that had gone missing? It was returned.. partially opened.. not sure what their plans were for that; the fact that it had been partially opened should have been a clue. Perhaps the same plans they had when they replaced the center of her last shower head with a "metal" piece when it was all off-white and plastic. As if she wouldn't notice. It makes her sick to think what could have happened. She has never allowed anything of that sort to occur ever in her entire life -- never has ever done anything that was for taping, photography, etc. that was of that nature. So to think someone taped or filmed her or her family while in the shower is unthinkable. Disgusting. Makes her sick. And that would have been for a two-week period, at least. The only people in her home were the cleaning crew that her daughter found on Groupon, or, hacker/stalker dude. Nice.

Same with where she is now. Texting to let her friend know when the lock would be changed and to have the roomie show up that one time only at that particular time, breaking their routine that one day only -- for a lock change? Things like that can be coincidences, or just a lucky setup. She had the lock changed that morning at 8:30 a.m., arrangements setup on a different phone that no one was supposed to know about. It's things like that that make people go "hmm." We post these things because she is not the only one that these things are happening to. Her makeup? Once again her eyebrow and eyeliner pencils are being "ground" down to flat -- kept in the bathroom, not locked so completely accessible. It's like wow, they can't get to the locked stuff so now it's back to that. It's what used to occur at the old place; a sure sign he's been there again -- at her new place. What in the world could he possibly be jealous of? The agency claims they see that all the time from ex-boyfriend stalkers. Nice. She says it makes one feel oh so secure.

She was just looking through her accounts. She not only found that her email account has a YouTube Video account "setup" and linked to it, but that it also has settings. When she first logged on, she discovered that it had settings for videos longer than 15 seconds. She just took the info and logged it, photos, etc. Then she started fishing around (this is after recovering her account yet again, about fifth time in a week?) ...and she finds that 11 apps have been uploaded to the phone that she hasn't had access to, or hasn't had email hooked to, remember? Including DLink.. a video program. She remembers this very well because she tried to use this camera and system on her phone one time (not through this account she is looking at, however) to track hacker.. only he found it and disabled it and did his usual disabling, etc. when she would go out of town. So now her mind was spinning, right? What in the world is she doing with a YouTube account, and with a video account, let alone 11 apps on a phone she is not using?

Add to that the settings that first appeared in Spanish. Great, was someone he enlisted Spanish speaking to boot? Would that explain the multiple times "David" from VM would keep telling her "not to worry, ma'am" your account is super secure with extra heavy "security measures" at Virgin Mobile; you have nothing to worry about and "I assure you, your phone has never been hacked." I wonder what color the sky is in his world. Unless he's involved. It was always "David" who closed the account or sent the new phone -- the replacement phone that came with a back, battery and SD card inserted. Or Alex, the guy who would first send you your PIN via text as a "test" text to ensure the phone was working correctly; and then send you a phone or inccorectly notate your account so you looked stupid when you called again (because they really don't know how to handle a hacker). She is just tired of sugar coating the customer service and being told "you don't have a hacker, ma'am, that's just ridiculous." And yet, she would call repeatedly with her PIN being texted to her, or the phone or texting not working "sent from a "hidden sender" or no calls received, or no calls going out... or her favorite, calling to a 24/7 number, such as AT&T or PG&E...and hearing, "sorry, we are closed now." Right. Anyway, this was not a bitch session or a complaint blog -- this was a note to be careful of the programs that are on your phone, or downloaded to your phone. Gmail may be easily hacked -- and not so easily recovered (or easily recovered if the hacker knows you and your life) but so is every other email out there if he has a program on your every device from wifi, computer, phone, cable, PG&E to Lord knows what else he can get his hands on. It is incredible what they can do remotely these days -- and make it look like you did it from your own computer.

We really do need to make this very, very clear. This blog was initially written because she was not hearing from authorities in the beginning; she thought it was her only way of hearing from someone. Remember, toward the end of last year and the beginning of this year, a Sgt. was "calling" her still and refusing to take a report. She desperately needed something to be done and she was basically being told she was the crazy one. She is not knocking anyone -- my goodness, this hacker /stalker idiot is good at making people look crazy. But, for goodness sakes, if only some of what she said were "looked" at or if officers had only witnessed even a portion of what she is saying happened, then authorities would have a clue. And, if only more understood the severity of what was being done -- this would not have gotten to the level it did. Not by a long shot.

She wasn't just finding someone in her yard or plantings of "individuals" on her security system or messages; she was finding "someone" that looked like her on her security camera. She was finding messages, threats and innuendos on her security camera that were obviously hand-written -- before it went blank or eventually was damaged completely. Well, it wasn't until the roofers who installed the new roof when it was completely damaged -- she found, however, that one of the roofers was talking to the neighbor in question at the old place and next thing she knew, the wires had been spliced on every camera in the system on the outer perimeter, and then of course as they did the roof above her room, the attic, well -- you know the camera system there had been destroyed. Coincidence? Perhaps. Again, just another one of those things that make one go "hmm." And the roofer? He claimed "no liability" whatsoever; said it was not his issue -- even though we were home the entire time he was working on the roof (two whole weeks mind you) -- he could have knocked on the door at any given time and said to please remove the cameras, unwire them, move them off the eve -- whatever he needed done. But no, they just spliced them in half, three's and more -- and then tried to tape them as if nothing happened. And then pulled the "no liability" and said it was in the contract. Really? Wow... and they call that professional? There's an article there -- it goes way beyond any customer service or professionalism I ever heard. We come from a family of contractors and construction; we know better. The roofer was an idiot, plain and simple.

The backup security system was no good -- more of a deterrent. A major brand mind you, and once again we've already written about this one. Again, she was approached by them to install, and sure enough during the majority of all the hacking/stalking and break-ins -- so sure, she was all for it, right? So, not sure how that fairs in all of this. She guesses that due to the fact that she was approached (sound familiar?), and that the guy who installed was seen in a car driven by the guy who was not only seen where she used to walk frequently, but also turned out to be a boyfriend of an ex-friend's girlfriend -- of whom, by the way, had a thing for this ex-boyfriend stalker dude and who made it known she hated that he approached this woman rather than her at the dance. Really? Wow.) Anyway, so another coincidence? Perhaps. There are so many pieces to this puzzle that we have not yet revealed and have been saving -- we just wanted to reveal a few because we have been discovering that as some evidence come to light, it is linking more and more people that we are shocked to find involved, yet it also pushes some over the ledge and makes others realize the severity of what we are dealing with.

For another taste, while she was moving, files would be replaced inside boxes or even in her "safe" with files she had thrown in shred; so a sign he used to do previously (his favorite way of saying "I was here"). He even left new boxes of shred or papers to go through -- after she was done with the house completely -- meaning they had returned even more paperwork they took from her home, even after she was done. It got to the point she had to stop going by there as she kept finding the garbage emptied; more boxes showing up filled with papers -- it was almost comical, but gettiing expensive. She no longer knew what was missing -- but she was sure it was somewhere between 2008 and 2012.As you know, hacker/stalker dude cannot do this alone, so he had to have enlisted the assistance of those in desperate need of "something." After all, who else would be so low as to do something like to another, and continue at such great pace -- unless for drugs or money? And how can he be in court and how can her room be burglarized at the same time, right? They have to know where she is at all times and that was a perfect setup. Unless of course it's her new roomie; CraigsList is, after all, not that reliable. It's like another nightmare movie that doesn't end.

So, as we forge on, we also continue to seek expertise in certain areas and help in others. What we can offer is continued partnerships in our ventures; we can discuss details with the right folks. We realize this is a lot of info but we released a bit more this time so people would know what we are dealing with and the level of their expertise needed (or the level these perps think they have). This woman is looking for help and as most can tell, desperately needs it. Never mind those piggy-backing off her name for marketing; she's given up on that and doesn't care. It isn't about her profile -- the others she has discussed this with (the other high profile business men who are undergoing similar situations and who have been told by authorities there is little that can be done) -- they feel the same; frustrated, and as though they are helpless. To a point.

She has sought assistance both under and above ground; and has the assistance of authorities, of whom she still has utmost faith in -- regardless of those few with whom the stalker/hacker dude has managed to convince she just might be somewhat "crazy." Well, that's all well and good -- but the way we see it, you just might have to be a little crazy to have made it through almost three years of someone doing this to you; how else could you get through without having gone after him herself, right? Ha ha. Just kidding. Geez, she can't even joke around or she could be deemed crazy and dangerous. Point being, she has remained sane and intends to long enough to see justice done. She has no choice. All of the other women have run or moved; that in itself intrigues many of us. She guesses because of the hell it takes just to get a Restraining Order filed let alone go through the process or try to fight something like this. These days it's a system built around the criminal with a guilty until proven innocent -- for the victim. We have never been so amazed by such a system and we are certain some authorities are equally amazed. However, we have to believe in justice prevailing. We just have to. With that said, we can only hope God is with her and others who have undergone similar circumstances and we can only hope it gets better. It just has to.

She refuses to be afraid; what they obviously tried to make her feel and continuously try to make her feel. This noise at night and the going through fences (it really is comical) and the leaving gates open and whatnot --it's getting old. Following her? C'mon ...she can pick out the stalkers vs. the PI's vs. well.. you get the idea. He can make her think she is as crazy as crazy comes but she intends to stand her ground because she won't let him take her everything away, nor will she let him destroy everything about her. He thinks he is killing her softly; he is building her up and he has no idea.

We sure hope no one else has had to endure what this woman has... but if by chance you have, we'd love to hear from you. Oh yes, and we are also looking for a writer. Contact us; we'd love to hear from those interested in helping. She is in need of quite a few "various" types of resources right now; I wish we could go into detail but we can't just yet. He really has done some major damage. He continuously hacks us so no matter the address, we still don't know how to receive your email; we just tried to allow posts and it won't let us -- no matter what we try to do, it won't let us do anything. Keep trying. we will try to provide alternate resources. You can also try another writer, PKCosta1@gmail.com -- if all else fails; she writes for Examiner.com and might be able to assist. Thank you so much for your continued support.

Have you had your smile today?

Absolutely Amazing...

We couldn't come up with a title for this one, in fact, we weren't even sure how to post the latest. However, it has to be posted for the sheer fact that this woman now can't receive her mail. We know this simply can't be true and must be a mistake, right? (I'm going to risk the valley girl talk, here) I mean, seriously, to be told by the post office (yes, by "Frank" at the local post office) that they do NOT track vacation holds, forwards, etc. for any length of time whatsoever means that stalkers, hackers, neighboring idiots and who knows who else (perps) can change, forward and basically SCREW with your mail, read it, open it, keep it for a few weeks and then reseal it and pop it back in the mail to be delivered to you (if they wish). In other words, her question for "Frank" was simple, "What good is having U.S. Mail if we aren't assured of receiving it, and if you're basically going to hand it over to "any" Tom, Dick and Harry to requests it?" His response? "We receive too many "hand-written" notices for forwards, mail stops, vacation holds, etc. to keep track of."

Are you freakin' kidding me? Seriously? I am still in shock. It's time to go above and beyond. And she wondered why her mail was not only opened, not received or delayed by a few weeks; but when she did receive it, why it had been opened and resealed. And this is acceptable to the U.S. Postal Service? Wow. Unbelievable. I sense a new trend coming on.

Add to that the fact that she was waiting for a "Safe at Home" address; yes, an address to keep her safe from her hacker/ stalker/ harasser;/ do you really think that's going to happen now? He already stole the evidence right out of her home that was to be attached to the Restraining Order (she was already wondering "no wonder women don't want to file for these things -- all that has to be done; all that they have to go through?" And now this? To file for a "Safe" address, only to be assured by the local post office of "never" receiving it? Nice.

We don't post this for publicity; we post this for help. It appears that NO ONE can help her. No agency, no authority; NO ONE. It certainly appears that way, doesn't it? Please do correct us if we are wrong. Either she is being sadly mislead or being given incorrect info, or something is very, very wrong with our system.

This after the discovery that not only was the "evidence" missing (stolen right out from under her, her purse, her "safe," her home, her "new" address) -- yep, she feels oh so safe. Her new computer was even opened. Not sure when that happened. The woman over the telephone from USPS who took her credit card info for the $1 to do the "forward" of her mail from her P.O. Box to her physical (just until the "safe" address was completed, which was so far delayed that it wouldn't have worked anyway) ...was "bogus" also? And, so now he has her credit card info. Nice.

So not only was she "not" receiving mail for two weeks (at least) or mail at her P.O. Box, and evidence to link the "ehem" people "near" -- no mail was being received toward the end because why... he thought she'd be so dumb as to put her new address on the form for the safe address? Wow. OK. And, then, just a few days ago... the same guy he sent before (a PI sent, she assumes) ...comes a knockin' at her "new" door... claiming to sell something or whatever...  but it was merely to verify if she was "there" or not... because the PI sat in his grey truck outside the residence a few doors down (she has very good neighbors now).

So.. in his efforts to spy on her and find her new address, he has done so. And, by the way, he has managed to not only find out her new "drug dealer disposable phone" number... he has managed to hack once again at least "twice" this email account, her Facebook account, her other main email account and her NEW email accounts that were brand new that NO ONE and I mean no one knew about ...so... tell me this is not being done by some tweak professional (or hacker hired by what thinks he's a professional)...?

Amazing. Luckily, the evidence is already in the hands of authorities. Like she'd keep the only copies in the safe she had in her "new" room that, by the way, either the new landlord already snooped in (right) ...or he's already been in 7 times now. The first five she chalked up to "snooping" ...but after the safe numbers were off by at least 10 (right, bumped? uh, try again)... she was taking photos and comparing them to how she left it and how it was when she returned? Well, needless to say it was never left in the same condition and EVERYTHING was rummaged through, and she said EVERYTHING... including her underwear drawer. DISGUSTING.

Also, the old place she moved out of? Not only did she rummage through and empty it at least twice, a third time she went back to drop off the keys and yet again found ANOTHER box of paperwork left in that old place for her. Like really? Are you kidding? So not only did they take the garbage yet again, take the ashes out of the fire pit when she thought she'd try burning some of the shred to save money (that was a classic -- like what was she going to do, burn love letters? He really is sick) ...but he took the garbage and stole photos, old photos, negatives -- once again invading privacy. These morons will stop at nothing apparently. And, yes, she has proof... she has a few photos of that stuff, too. Ironically they didn't realize some of what they did was traceable :)  Thank the Lord is all she could say.

This is getting to be so ridiculous, not even a sci-fi any longer.... but more of a Peyton Place meets Stephen King meets ET or something. It is absolutely ridiculous... the moronic moves of a psychotic (or whatever he/they are) -- she no longer has a label. She is done trying to figure it out and done trying to analyze; not her job and certainly not ours. Once again, we are not publishing this for publicity, but to warn victims out there -- this is how far some idiots will go to scandalize and hurt their victims. It was bad enough he had taped her, victimized, terrorized, followed, harassed, done all those terrible things for YEARS mind you -- but to continue as she tries to escape and find peace? Really? Wow... that is a sick beyond sick. No words. And to employ the help of even more sick people who need money or drugs to help him make her think she's the one going crazy? Shame on them. Absolutely shame on all of you... amazing that they even sleep at night. Oh, guess that takes a conscience, soul and heart.

So there you go. A whole lot more "coincidences" in the theories that keep building... and building...

Absolutely amazing. *shaking head*

Did you know...?

We are posting this only because we think others should know about "these types of things" available to the "average Joe" and likely "criminals" who use the info for the greater bad, not the greater good.

Did you know...?

·        Did you know that anyone off the street can purchase monitoring software that can monitor your every move via your cell, computer, car, etc.? (And they actually sell it through Private Investigator firms to online companies for use by business associates to spy on their competitors? Yes, really. And no, we aren't even talking about the black market or military stuff that is not normally available to the general public (that is much more advanced are far scarier); you probably don't want to know about that yet.)

·        Did you know that anyone, at any time, can attach a device to your vehicle without you knowing and follow your whereabouts to the exact location (if they haven't already hacked your vehicle's internal GPS or cell phone navigation system)?

·        Did you know that people can not only plant "monitoring" devices in your home, but also do so without ever entering your home? (Sounds like a spy movie, doesn’t it?)

·        Did you know that people are capable of monitoring a person's body image inside their home, such as with a software program that enables them to monitor that person to the point of knowing which room they are in at every moment of every day? 

·        Did you know that if you have an "unexplained" utility bills, such as electric (with an increase that is not due to taxes, new rate increases, new lighting or appliances, etc.) that it could quite possibly be due to "monitoring equipment" and sometimes up to $60 to $100 per month (or more) depending on how much equipment is being used?

·        Did you know that cell phones are not as private as people think (including text messages, phone calls, games, photos, etc.)?

·        Did you know that if your phone starts to go to sleep on its own (or wake up on its own); shut itself on or off; wake up and start the camera or video cam; or delete contacts or make phone calls, etc. that it very possibly could be the cause of not just a "software issue" or "virus" but due to a monitoring system installed onto your device? 

·        Did you know that when you receive a replacement phone that it is a refurbished phone, not a “new” device – and although under warranty, it it could have just been “wiped” and resent to you, with the same problems as the previous owner had if not taken care of properly at the Service Provider?

·        Did you know that anything and everything electronic is indeed hackable (such as a cell phone, computer, vehicle GPS, utilities, cable, Internet, "etc.") without you ever knowing? (Yes, someone could even remotely access your television and turn off your TV if they were upset with you (do a search on what to do with annoying neighbors; you’d be very surprised at what you’ll find – watch those pets and water bills).

·        Did you know that when you start to date that ANYONE is easily checked online, for free? Don't fall for those sites that make you pay incredibly high prices for info that is public knowledge; learn how to do a background check on someone before dating them or getting too involved. They could be the stalker/hacker/harasser from hell, very much like this poor woman has dealt with for almost 3 years now.

Well, we were shocked to discover that although illegal, indeed all of the above can and actually much of it has taken place or been done to this poor woman. We'd even say be cautious if leftover foods in your frig make you ill or taste "salty" or if "new" bottles of water start to appear opened way too frequently and even if your makeup has been tampered with (and you just can’t figure out “how) – be cautious; these are normal and things done by stalkers of ex’s.

No, we are not posting this to scare anyone or turn anyone into a paranoid tweak or to start acting like the tweak your stalker has become, we are posting this to inform those who may be in danger of crazy stalkers who think they are tracking people to know there whereabouts yet they are going above and beyond the usual stalking techniques these days and going too far. And most people (as this woman) are not privy to the signs that if you pay close attention to, your gut just may warn you of some of it. But, the unfortunate is, if your stalker is experienced, it can happen slowly over time and sometimes there is nothing you can do (although there is help out there if you know where to look). But the point we want to get across is that gut feelings are there for a reason, and they are there even if slight. It could be the flu; it could be an upset tummy from lunch; it could be the jitters, sure. But in reality, red flags way in the beginning, when you first meet a person that is "a little off" or that "doesn't seem quite right” will eat at your gut if not listened to. So please, pay attention to those red flags and do not let them fester or build until it’s too late to do something about it. You do not have to become Mr. Paranoid to the point of not having any friends or never leaving your home (or you may go as crazy as your stalker and then it's narrowing your chances of gathering valuable info), but do pay attention to those flags and start a journal (and keep it in a very safe place, even if that means moving it now and again to ensure its safety). 

Do Google searches on your date or that "new" person you have an "off" feeling about (or if it is a "bad" feeling, just steer clear altogether if you can). The whole point about first encounters is to ask questions (and by the end of a first date, for instance, you would know a full name, whereabouts they live, where they are from, what they do for a living, "if" they work and where, etc.) ...enough to do a general background check. Thus the "first date" 20 questions as some people call it. And then take your time. Sometimes it may take a few dates, but take that "get to know" someone period and get to know that person. You can be modern and traditional at the same time; in fact, it's the new "in" thing. The way someone interacts with you, with others, with an incorrect order or bill, etc. will be someone that will not be able to hide who they "really are" for very long. Hot tempers, attitudes (even those with sadness, depression, inability to cope with much of anything, etc.) it all comes out eventually. Even listening to a person's opinion about something can be a sign about who they are as a person (do they have good character, do they have morals and ethics, etc. ...and not just "say" they do. Remember, actions always speak louder than words.) And remember, gut feelings are generally never wrong, although sometimes they are red flags for a reason; not to be a STOP but merely a precaution or to take caution or to wake up and smell the coffee, pay attention, slow down, take your time...you get the idea. Besides, if it's a good thing and the real thing, baby... it will still be there tomorrow, next week, next month, etc. Good things do last when they are solid, valid and have substance.

This woman's "everything" has not only gone missing, but her every personal file in her home (unfortunately she was "one of those" who kept all records sacred; so let this be a lesson now, save ONLY what you must for legal purposes and shred or burn the rest); but she was missing everything from medical to personal hand-written notes and poetry to her taxes to her books to her insurance and bank information (including a copy of her birth certificates and credit statements) to "old" attorney paperwork to businesses to "you name it." She wasn't kidding when she said everything had been rifled through or gone missing. Some of the missing paperwork has been returned, some showing up "in the trash." Some, she’s certain, never to be seen again. 

Point being, take every precaution you can; do searches and if you notice your computer being "controlled" by another (such as incomplete info shows up, or info you know is there but you can't find), go to the library and use a safe computer to do the search if "nothing" comes up or if you notice your phone acting up "way too often" or way too many times for the normal phone allotment (and we all know what that is); and get a new phone if need be. Be sure to try different search engines, but we like Google thus far as it seems to be the most reliable. And remember, most cell phones are under warranty or come with a certain time frame to get a free replacement. This woman is on her 8th or 9th (we are losing count, honestly). As for computers, learn how to use it and learn how to check for remote users; pay attention to your desktop; and pay attention to scans and how to check if the firewall is working. This guy learned the 7-step hack (that's what she calls it) where he could get through the anti-virus, firewall and into her settings and become a remote user in 7 easy steps (while she watched). She almost became fascinated. 

If you don't know how or refuse to learn, find a "good" computer guru (at least one that you trust) and have him maintain your computer. On the other side of that comes the ultimate "incompetency" we sometimes speak of where computers can act up if they are not properly updated (such as when not properly maintained or updated) or when bogus information or being steered in the wrong direction by someone in customer service who thinks they know it all. We are not claiming to know it all, we are only speaking from experience and don’t claim to be the guru of anything. We only hope to help others from a huge headache, and who knows – maybe even save a life. We all know that the bottom line comes to the fact that customer service just isn't what it used to be so not only do we have to have patience, but victims these days should keep a log to rule out those "incompetencies" and to compare the "real" with the plausible with the actual and factual and even those theories because when dealing with authorities, they really do just want the facts – but your notes are invaluable when it comes time to file that restraining order or deal with an agency that can help. You can’t be expected to remember everything, and having a timeline can be very helpful in any case (plus it keeps you from going absolutely insane – which is their ultimate goal. Do not ever forget that).

More later... but for now, the woman is alive and well. Her sense of humor very much intact, thank goodness. So, for now, have a blessed day and by the way, have you had your smile today?